I’ve been thinking hard about ending this blog and have decided it’s time. When I first started this it was to leave testament of my coming out and transition. The issues and angst, the hurdles and the wins were all documented. But I have noticed that for a while, it’s really just been a place …
Proud
I resented not being like everyone else, or at least how I perceived everyone else. I hated that I was always on the outside and all the other children seemed in on some cosmic joke. I had to figuratively laugh along, for if I showed my differences, then what would become of me? I was …
Being Seen
Today is the International Transgender Day of Visibility. I spent 40+ years hiding from everyone, from myself, and even after coming out I was afraid to be “out there”. Being out-out meant that I was opening myself up to attack or ridicule, the two very things I spent a lifetime avoiding. It took me the …
Freddie Prinze Jr is a Douchebag
I really don’t know why, but I used to believe that Freddie Prinze Jr was a douchebag. He was never on my radar and I only knew that he was in the Scooby-Doo movie, but then I learned more about him and about his life. I listened to what he actually has to say and …
Pardon The Mess
I’ve written so many blog posts that never get published. I write them, re-read them a few days later and then delete them. I have a very real tendency to bash myself, to be so hard on myself that it makes me cringe. I don’t really know where that comes from, parents or self-loathing. I …
Thoughts of the Day
I’ve been out for several years now and I still get giddy every time someone uses my true name and correct pronouns. I feel goosebumps every time Michelle calls me her wife. I am pleasantly surprised when a guy lightly flirts with me or a vendor calls me “Ma’am”. It’s not just validation, it’s a …
Turning to a New Year
In keeping with my positive attitude, I am looking forward to the New Year. A time, not to reinvent, but to acknowledge my flaws and do a better job of accepting them. I have held so tightly to the control of things, to my own detriment, that I have forgotten what it is like to …
Hindsight is 2020
The temptation to look back, in detail, upon the year of 2020 is allayed by the sheer foulness of its content. Yes, some events took place within the year that were good and noteworthy. But as with all things, you cannot take the good without the bad, in this case extraordinarily bad. So I will …
A Change in the West Wing
[ ANDREW HARNIK | AP ] Sunday, November 8th, I watched our USA President-Elect Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris give their victory speeches before a huge outdoor crowd. They spoke and I felt hope. A hope in their ability to dig us out of a hole that was left behind from the current …
An Allied Front
Photo by Element5 Digital on Unsplash ** I’m highjacking my own post, written a week ago. Election Day for the USA is happening right now. I hope that for our sakes there is record turnout for Democratic supporters. I understand that everyone has their reasons for what party they support, but I’m sorry if you …
