Today is the International Transgender Day of Visibility. I spent 40+ years hiding from everyone, from myself, and even after coming out I was afraid to be “out there”. Being out-out meant that I was opening myself up to attack or ridicule, the two very things I spent a lifetime avoiding. It took me the …
I really don’t know why, but I used to believe that Freddie Prinze Jr was a douchebag. He was never on my radar and I only knew that he was in the Scooby-Doo movie, but then I learned more about him and about his life. I listened to what he actually has to say and …
I’ve written so many blog posts that never get published. I write them, re-read them a few days later and then delete them. I have a very real tendency to bash myself, to be so hard on myself that it makes me cringe. I don’t really know where that comes from, parents or self-loathing. I …
I’ve been out for several years now and I still get giddy every time someone uses my true name and correct pronouns. I feel goosebumps every time Michelle calls me her wife. I am pleasantly surprised when a guy lightly flirts with me or a vendor calls me “Ma’am”. It’s not just validation, it’s a …
In keeping with my positive attitude, I am looking forward to the New Year. A time, not to reinvent, but to acknowledge my flaws and do a better job of accepting them. I have held so tightly to the control of things, to my own detriment, that I have forgotten what it is like to …
The temptation to look back, in detail, upon the year of 2020 is allayed by the sheer foulness of its content. Yes, some events took place within the year that were good and noteworthy. But as with all things, you cannot take the good without the bad, in this case extraordinarily bad. So I will …
[ ANDREW HARNIK | AP ] Sunday, November 8th, I watched our USA President-Elect Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris give their victory speeches before a huge outdoor crowd. They spoke and I felt hope. A hope in their ability to dig us out of a hole that was left behind from the current …
Photo by Element5 Digital on Unsplash ** I’m highjacking my own post, written a week ago. Election Day for the USA is happening right now. I hope that for our sakes there is record turnout for Democratic supporters. I understand that everyone has their reasons for what party they support, but I’m sorry if you …
Photo by Adam Nieścioruk on Unsplash Like most people, I have had trouble dealing with the pandemic, the uncertainty of employment and with our political climate. So it’s no wonder that most of my latest writings are darker in nature than they typically would be. It stands to reason that my posts from a year …
[Warning - Suicidal Ideation] I don’t often give in to despair, it’s usually ennui, aftermaths of gender dysphoric episodes or depression but it rarely delves deeper than that. And since coming out, they have all been greatly diminished, but not banished. However, last month I was at a fairly low point. I had been feeling …
Life, the universe and everything
Everybody Needs Some Body
and "S" is for Spouse
a lone voice calling in the wilderness
Life, the universe and everything
Life, the universe and everything
